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The Verbal Exchange
This is for all those people who need spoken words to help them cope with the day to day trials. Apparently, some people need no words to let them know they are loved, while others do. It is this spoken word that fills the heart with hope and inspiration. The big lie is that words do not do anything; the reality is words mean everything. Furthermore, when we can tell the one we love that they are important to us; they feel the strength of those convictions. Finding the right person to stick it out with is very hard for some of us. We have unrealistic ideas about love. Thinking we can keep someone in our life without ever telling them I Love you? That is not how to build up confidence in your mate, you must let them know by the words that they are acceptable, and you want them in your life. Keeping your mate at a distance will eventually wear down the others resolve, as they feel no matter how hard they try; they are not good enough to receive the simple words that mean so much… If you want to keep your significant other in your life, do not set rules about calling or coming by for visits. An open relationship is just that. Open. Trying to play two sides of the street can only lead to disappointment. We are feeling creatures, and we are not in love to live with secret arrangements or hidden love. We are in love to be accepted. Furthermore, if the one we love is ashamed to introduce us to their friends, then we must make the choice to continue to live in a shallow unfulfilling love relationship, or move on to find one who accepts all of who we are with no childish or selfish motives. Remember, love is not hard. It is the greatest journey you will ever take, and the one you love will understand your needs. If you find yourself continually beating your head against the wall because the one you profess your love to refuses to work at partnership or marriage, then you must leave. For some` this is very hard, but I think if you can get honest with yourself, you will allow yourself to let go. Take the time to listen to your partners needs, yet do not belittle your own "personal emotional" needs; they are the most important ingredient to a fulfilling, healthy, and happy relationship.
Thomas A Sutor P O Box 2343 Lompoc CA 93436 Rockhawk.com |
All written word is "The Opinion" of Thomas A. unless otherwise noted...
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