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| The Simplest Pleasures… It is not within my mind` too find all the answers, yet I know what I feel. When in a relationship with so much turmoil and confusion, I can only be relieved after a while once it is over. When once I tried to figure out her motives and strange arrangements, now I just smile and say I was so foolish to give my heart without any return investment. I gave and gave and planned a way to make it all work; however, she did not plan. Her attention was some place else, and that is why she lost my affections. She prioritiesed other people’s opinions and did not trust her heart. She let people who knew nothing of love convince her "this is the way" of reality. It is no wonder she has never had a peaceful and respecting romance… One can not be happy if they are always placing conditions on love. Either you can say the words and back them up with actions, or you do actions for no other reason than personal gain. I can not fault one for looking out for them selves. I have spent too much of my time caring about others without consideration` about my own personal needs. You can not be happy with people who do not know how to share and be honest. Even when we hold information to protect the one we care about, we are really just breaking the foundation of trust. Trust will work to make all things right. Secrets and selfish thoughts will only instigate suspicious emotions and begin the crumbling or romance. We can not hide what we do in private from the one who loves us without jeopardizing the intimacy. Intimate conversation is not given to anyone; it is given to the one we trust. Once one no longer cares to be completely candid about what they do, then they are doing something~ they feel they have to hide. Even a lover can sense this mental change and will question what has happened? Too many focus on their personal sexual agendas without realizing what this leads to, losing all the great emotions of trust in their special someone. How can one feel committed when their lover cheats by way of misinformation? How people think they will grow up happy in life built on lies is beyond me? I will not lie about my true feelings, nor will I start a relationship built on these lies either. If you can not be upfront with the one you love, do not lead them on… So many people live alone because of bad personal choices. So many marriages fail because we start to hide aspects of who we are from our mate, and so many blame their ex’s for all their unhappiness instead of moving forward and realizing it was not meant to be. A relationship will work and be filled with hope when both have complete “realistic intentions” toward the other. If you are trying to get a “free thrill” off of love by embracing someone you do not love, you are going to hurt that person when they discover your true motives. Downplaying a lover to friend can happen in an honest relationship; sadly downplaying a lover to friend after you have gotten your fill` will only lead to hurt memories. These memories will follow you through life with regrets and stupid pride when you understand how much you just threw away because you did not understand the reality of Love.
Thomas A Sutor P O Box 2343 Lompoc CA 93438 Rockhawk.com |
All written word is "The Opinion" of Thomas A. unless otherwise noted...
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