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Sadness To
many times I read about how passion fades and romance is only temporary. I
wondered to myself why so many people think this is so? It seems to me it comes
down to self-seeking motives! If we just look out for ourselves, we might have a
future… A future filled with possessions, and a future filled with secrets,
and a future filled with no understanding of love. Love is not about taking care
of your self. Love is opening your soul to another. Once this connection has
been made, the years can pass and mistakes can happen, but they will not give up
on eachother. They will work hard to keep love and romance a daily part of their
living. It is too sad that many people confuse love` with material needs.
It
is nice to have security and money, yet when 2 people work together, they will
always find a way to make enough money to live and enjoy life! I guess when one
in the relation does not do their part, it seems that love is a waste of money.
However, love was not the problem. It was selfishness. One person can earn
money, but if both are healthy, they should work together to make a stronger
financial future. Money is important to any relationship that lives in a
society` that makes it the only means for survival. Other cultures live off the
land, but they still need “both people” in the relationship to do their
part. When one only focuses on what “they will get” out of the relationship,
yet never look at what they can do to enhance the feeling of security in the
other, then they have no reason to complain` that life does not validate Love.
Love has nothing to do with that! It is the individual who must validate love!
Therefore,
people who are alone and bitter- are only that way because they prize material
security’ over true emotions of commitment. Yes, we all have had people use
us, but we have learned what behavior to look out for now. We are not stupid! We
can review why a former love was so tragic because of the others selfish –
lying, cheating, put downs, abuse, and control... Today we are free and able to
question, and investigate what made that person treat us so. They did not care
about our needs; they had their own agenda! They hurt us, they beat us, and they
took all we had… Well, not all we had. If we are able to live and do things in
life after a disappointing relationship, then we have more to give. Unless, we
choose to be selfish because we live in fear… Love has no fear and realizes~
this may be the only life we will live. If this life is so short, I will not
live without trying to find true love!
True
Love is not just sex, True love is not without insecurity, and True love is
always willing to try again with honest motives` for a new relationship. When I
can think of the other, I do not limit my happiness. I do not let family tell me
what True Love: means to me, I do not let friends tell me what True Love is, and
I do not let failed love relations` tell me what True Love is. True Love feels
good! True Love gives hope! And True Love starts with me! I must first love
myself, and care enough about me` to allow another to share that with me. I am
tired of living in fear and disillusionment! I deserve True Love! I have found
someone to accept me, and my flaws. I feel strong emotions for them as well. I
will not worry about safety in a world that is so unpredictable! I will embrace
True Love with an open heart, and an open mind. Once’ I lived the lie… Today
the truth is: I am --- TRUE LOVE. Thomas
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All written word is "The Opinion" of Thomas A. unless otherwise noted...
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