Nothing Profound

Just another day in this lovely world. I awaken, stretch, and arise myself from my sleeping slumber. Sometimes there are dreams to be remembered, at other times it’s a joy to be awake, and still others were the day must be met regardless of the emotional baggage I still carry. Still, it is good to be at peace with myself even when I’m unable to be a peace with others… Not that I can blame others for being upset with me. I’m sure there are times that things I do "are misunderstood." Being honest is not always easy with people around you, especially close friends who do not want to hear you right now. So you’re left with a dilemma. You can make the choice to speak your mind and possibly lose the friendship, or you can keep it to yourself and hope the situation gets better on its own.

How others approach friendship is of no concern to me. Some people from disturbing backgrounds may have learned habits that are not based on truth and trust. My friends, they are honest with me, and I listen to what they say. Because if I cannot trust my friends to be honest and give me good information on their observations of my life, who can I turn to when I have troubles? Depending on how important the friendship is, and how committed people are to friendship, we cannot mix failed love relationships into friendships. Persons in love who have had sexual relations, that person wishes to remain in romantic passions with that person. It is no wonder why we all hate the hear "let’s just be friends." After we’ve shared intimate sexual desire with another, it is best to break from those relationships once the romance has ended.

The committed friendship does not base its relationship on sexual compatibility, but the indubitable conversations that are shared when together. Conversations that are intriguing as well as interesting. I believe the most profound relationships are friendships built in times of need. It is when we are at our worst that we find out who are true friends are. They are the ones who stand beside us defending and understanding. It would be foolish to judge our friends if they’ve done nothing harmful to us. Focusing on the shortcomings of our friends will generally dissolve the relationship. We must focus on our similarities and the activities we enjoy doing together. Things that are most enjoyable with a friend is playing a game, reading to each other, and doing social activities. Furthermore, when times are tough, the true friend forgives.

Friendships must be based on a quality that surpasses the daily ups-and-downs of living. A friendship is strongest when we can confide personal information with another. When we do not open up to our trusted friend about personal problems, we limit the potential of that friend to help us. Having a close and understanding friend means we do not have to face life alone. It means we have a connection that is stronger than time. I pray that God will unite my soul with people who believe in goodness, fairness, and appreciation. I hope I encourage my friends to feel safe in sharing legitimate issues. Because if we cannot be real with our friends, it is only a shallow meaningless association.

Thomas A. SUTOR

P.O. Box 2343

Lompoc CA 93438

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