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cannot fix Her Whenever you
realize how much your mother affects your ability to choose the right woman, you
choose either to stay single, or be willing to fail miserably time after time.
Those who are lucky enough to have a mother who was caring, encouraging,
and proud of their child always have the best possibility for successful
relationships. However, those of us
who come from a mother who was critical, demanding, and to often emotionally
unattainable, we become attracted to younger versions of that.
We actually believe we can teach these women how loving, how
self-sacrificing, and how submissive we will be for kindness and approval.
Sadly these women are so jaded, they can only be what they think are the
characteristics of power. The woman who is filled with punishment and
critical attitudes destroys the hope of many a good man.
Most men never do a self-inventory to see whether they continually have
relationships that are filled with bitterness, harsh words, or being told that
they never measure up. The woman is
not going to do a self-inventory for she lust too greatly for this control over
a man. These types of attitudes do
nothing to help either one find true love. The women will be cruel, harsh, and
critical. The man will try to
appease this madness by being submissive, showing emotions, and being needy.
What mother could never give he tries to find in another woman of the
same personality type. But if the women is unwilling to work on herself and look at
her part in the relationship, she will only be demeaning towards the man she
cares about. She will not see her words as hurtful, vicious,
and hateful. She will blame the man
for being too weak, too sensitive, and too naïve.
She does not wish to encourage him to love her; she wishes to punish him
because of what other men did to her. The
man will try desperately to appease this savage appetite with gifts, with
poetry, and even with financial security. Consequently,
she will take all these things for granted and point out what “he has not.”
Some men will stay in relationship like this till the day they die. Others will be so beat down; they will either never fall in
love again or commit suicide. Thirdly,
the man who is honest with himself? he will stand his ground and walk away
knowing she is unwilling to change. It
is not his responsibility to make her happy. Yet she conveniently blames him
every time something is not going the way she wants it to. Many a man has been brought down to resentful,
bitter, and hateful attitudes towards women because of such treatment.
A woman can lie to herself and never even know it.
She convinces herself she’s trying to be helpful when she really wants
to be critical. She convinces
herself she’s being honest when she’s truly being unthinking and uncaring. She blames the man for not being strong enough to handle it
when she really wishes to continue to have a punching bag. A woman sometimes forgets how harsh words can be very
devastating to the man she loves. Furthermore,
she can cut the man so deeply that “she will convince him” when she says: I
never said I love you! After saying
such things to another soul how could one not hear the truth? Thomas
A. SUTOR P.O.
Box 2343 Lompoc
CA 93438 Rockhawk.com |
All written word is "The Opinion" of Thomas A. unless otherwise noted...
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